How can you create a positive mindset? Here are my quick and simple tips for keeping yourself upbeat and positive, even in tough times.
A positive mindset… now?
Well, well, well. Where do I even start? It’s been a real rough ride for a lot of us over the past few months. Coronavirus has wreaked havoc over the entire world, and has been ruthless in taking everything we took for granted and flipping it on its head.
Our daily routines have done a complete 180; we’ve been separated from our family, friends, jobs, and even the dreaded daily commutes we probably all complained about. Aside from being stuck at home, we’ve also not able to go to the gym to let off steam or unwind in pubs and restaurants normal. I never thought I’d have missed a gym class and a screaming gym instructor quite so much, but I do!
However, while there are a whole lot of things you can’t control right now, there are some things that you can control. And when you’re feeling overwhelmed, you can make small, daily decisions to keep your mindset in check. Creating a positive mindset doesn’t have to be about overhauling your whole life. It can be a series of really simple steps that you take everyday. For example, being mindful of who you’re following on social media, moving your body, and thinking about how you talk to yourself.
How you can create a positive mindset
1) Follow people who inspire you!
If you want to create a positive mindset you need to surround yourself by people who inspire you – both in real life and online. We spent a lot of time talking about the negative effects of social media. However, if you follow people who inspire and motivate you it can be a really positive place to be.
One of the things I like the most about blogging is the community. I love to spend some time on Twitter seeing how everyone else is getting on. I’m really inspired by one blogger in particular, Ell Duclos, who is the person who created the Pinterest course that’s been a real game changer for me. She’s always sharing great quotes on her social media accounts about how you shouldn’t give up and they really inspire me dig deep and keep going with this blogging journey even when I want to jack it all in!
2) Have a list of achievements to hand
Whenever you feel low your mind can start whispering a whole lot of negative things in your head. Examples: you’re never going to get that promotion or you’re a rubbish friend or your life is never going to turn out the way you want it to. You need to have a list to hand to combat this. Bullet point your achievements in a notebook or in the notes section in your phone so you always have it to refer to in those moments. You can also include things you like about yourself. These can be anything from you’re a good listener or you can make a mean spaghetti carbonara or you can do your make-up really nicely. Remind yourself of your strengths regularly – it really is key to maintaining a positive mindset.
3) Do something productive
OK, so maybe everything is getting on your nerves right now. Maybe you’re furloughed from your job or you’re just sick and tired of this whole lockdown situation. I relate! If you are feeling low then I always think you should give yourself some time out and do something different that can make you feel good about yourself. That way you’ll at least have done something productive with your day. My favourite mood boosters include taking the dog out for a walk in the sunshine, baking, or getting the DIY jobs in the house that I’ve been meaning to do for ages done. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. Even the smallest task will mean you can go to to bed knowing you’ve achieved something with your day.
4) Move your body – preferably outside
Going through this pandemic has made me appreciate the value of fresh air and exercise so much more. Without either of those things I don’t know what shape I would have been coming out the other side of this in – and I don’t mean physically, I mean in my head! There have been so many times when I’ve woken up feeling sluggish and like I just can’t be bothered – yesterday for example – and a quick run just changes everything. Whenever you step outside you step outside of your head, reset, and give yourself the chance to think about something else. It’s so valuable. Listen to your favourite music, discover a new podcast to be inspired by, or listen to an audio book – whatever you choose you’re carving out some important ‘me’ time just for you to relax, unwind, and keep a positive mindset.
5) Start a quotes board on Pinterest
You don’t have a quotes board on your Pinterest account? Definitely start one! I didn’t really like quotes before – I thought they were a bit trite and silly. However, starting a blog has really flipped my mindset. I really enjoy working away on something that might become something bigger in future. Whenever I feel demoralised a good quote can pick me back up and get me focused again. I find them a really good way to re-centre myself and to realise that everyone is in the same boat; everyone doubts themselves, everyone has struggles and everyone feels like a failure at times. However, if you can push through those moments you have the power to change your life – and that’s really exciting.
6) Surround yourself with good people
I recently read that you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. So you definitely want to make sure those five people are really good people! If you’re coming away from spending time with certain feeling shit about yourself, second guessing yourself, or just not feeling inspired or energised then why are you there? Your time is too valuable. Ditch the toxic people and surround yourself with really good people; the ones who will pick you up when you’re feeling low, remind you how awesome you are, and have your back. The others aren’t worth your time. Oh, and the same goes for social media. It’s great to follow people who inspire you. However, if you’re following someone who makes you feel shit about yourself then do the same as you would in real life. Get rid.
7) Give yourself a break
The times I usually feel lowest are when I’m burning myself out trying to do too much. That usually means working full time, doing freelance work, trying to dedicate time to my blog when Pinterest seems to be broken and I have to start manually pinning 20+ times a day again in order to get any traffic… add into that DIY for the house, learning SEO, and trying to have some time just to unwind and relax and it all gets too much really quickly. I’ve started trying to carve out time to unwind. I’ve just ordered a couple of new books and I’m looking forward to having a couple of early nights to start them. That’s the one thing I really wish I’d done more of during this lockdown so better late than never!